Sexual expression plays
a huge role in relationships. It is way for people to
show their lovers what they feel about them through
passionate and intimate ways. As wonderful as sexuality
can be, it is often misunderstood, which is why the
average couple faces sexual conflicts and challenges at
some point during their relationship. This is no way is
a generalization of men and women, but the truth is, men
and women handle their sexuality differently- on an
average. If couples spend some time to truly learn and
understand their partner’s sexuality, they can build a
happier and healthier sex life together, instead of
facing the conflicts that stall their relationship from
you now know that according for your sex life to
improve, you need to understand your partner’s
sexuality…but where do you start? Good question, but
there is no particular area to start. You can start at
any angle you wish, as long as you are learning
something about your partner’s sexual behavior. Of
course, the most advisable suggestion would be
communication, for every counseling psychologist
believes that all couple conflicts exist because of poor
communication that needs to be improved. This may be
true, but it is a very general suggestion- too general
for you to understand where to start. You see, this is
because you do not know what communication to improve.
Many couples may have wonderful communication between
each other and get along great, except for when it comes
to making love. How can this be if you communicate so
well? The answer is very simple, yet most people would
not think of it. In fact, the average person sees
communication as a general skill that works for all
areas of life, which is why most couple gets confused
when their sex life starts to lack. The answer is: You
need to improve your Sexual Communication.
sounds simple enough. So all you have to do is talk
about your sex life with your lover to clear any
confusion? Well, yes- talking about what is going on in
your bedroom certainly helps you both understand what is
going on in each others minds, but that is not the
entire solution. Besides talking about it, you have got
to do some research and work on your own. This means you
need to make an effort to study your partner’s sexuality
by learning what triggers good and bad sexual responses.
This is where it can get challenging because men and
women view sex differently. Though men have times they
are not “in the mood” due to other things going on in
their life, they usually can tune out everything when it
comes to having a lovemaking session with their partner.
In fact, for many men, sex is great way to help them
feel better and relax- like a stress reducer. For women
however, sex is a more fragile subject and involves a
lot of emotion. If a woman is having a bad day or has a
million things going on in her mind, it distracts her
from getting involved in good sexual activity. Men take
this offensively, thinking that the reason their woman
does not want to have sex or is not that into it, is
because she is no longer as turned on by him, or even
being selfish- when this is most of the time not true.
Women need to be approached in certain ways that will
make them feel relaxed, safe and ready to have sex. Men
too have their own preferences of ways to be approached.
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